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Most people get busy trying to analyze themselves as they figure out their place in this world. Don’t worry if that’s you, I used to do the same … I grew up analyzing everything about myself, from my physical appearance, to the way I expressed myself.


Natasha Josephine Kaskie - ZamChro Syndicated Columnist

Natasha Josephine Kaskie - ZamChro Syndicated Columnist

I always had high expectations such as of being the most unique, or most artistic. But then, I realized something … There is no such thing as “most” of anything. Everyone is who they are for a reason, and nobody is more special than another.






If we were meant to be equal then we all would not be here. Only the most perfect of us all would have been required to be there, to perform all functions for humanity. We all contribute to the world in some way, and that is why you must accept yourself for who you are.


If you feel you are worthless or insignificant, I can relate to that too. I used to feel the same way as well. But you have to look at the big picture: you ARE important, and you have your own unique qualities that make you who you are.


There are usually other factors that pull us down as well because it is often hard to think positive, especially if others bombard you with negative thoughts. But that’s another topic for another time all together.


However, you must believe that no other opinion should matter or alter the image you have of yourself. No other opinion does matter from anyone, really. All that matters is how you see and accept yourself. With that attitude and understanding, you can accomplish anything.


That attitude and understanding, is the initial building block for an advanced social system concept that allows you to relate with others. You would know fully well what they are thinking but you navigate their perception of you with what you believe yourself to be.


A positive way to start changing your way of thinking is to actually list all the positive qualities that are you. Write down all the things, no matter how small or large they may seem to you individually. All the qualities you believe make you unique.


Do not be afraid to have confidence in what you write, you have all the reason to show yourself how powerful you really believe you are! And remember, even if you feel that your importance is small, it’s really not.


Everything helps each other survive in life’s cycle. Read what you wrote, and look at yourself in the mirror. Study the soul behind your eyes, rather than criticize your physical appearance.


Look for the good that glows from within, and embrace it. By looking deeply into yourself, understanding the reasons behind all your good and bad actions, and knowing that only understands how you see yourself matters, and then only would you be on a true path to self acceptance.


Once you realize that you are the only you out there, and accept it, life’s purpose will seem more meaningful. For the meaning you will find will glorify the beauty of your individuality, and everlasting wisdom will follow.


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